Single Married Divorced Widowed Extra marital
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You must have guessed from the above exemplar that I am trying to talk about something that’s relatively common and… something that’s getting to be an open, tolerated behavior amongst people off-late. In fact, the happenings am seeing through my minds eye in my surrounding inspired me to consider this topic after facing two weeks of dilemma fighting my own inhibitions. But, I pursued it as I have a say on this.
I remember my cousin telling me that extramarital affairs are becoming everyone’s cup of tea whereas, one of my friends demurely justified that it’s a common affair amongst doctors in particular. Another friend banged upon intellectual inspiration missing in marriages and, yet another friend strongly declared saying that marriage is an accident. In fact, the Yahoo! blog flashed information on how couples are talking about their extramartial affairs to each other to keep their marriage going. Hmmm…now the last one seems like a suspiring change in perspective of the term-Marriage!
Marriage- somehow is perceived as complicated, and an overrated institution by many. Although it has plenty of advantages, one of them is, it makes us ‘evolve’ in reality; it teaches and teaches and teaches…and teaches what we are to us and only when one is ready to learn. It’s certainly not for selfish, scared and uncommitted people. It is hard work and hard work of giving in from both the stakeholders. And if one slips repeatedly in this continuous process, the other one is sure to slip off!
Extramarital is the attraction that swings by when one is tied up. One tends to get carried away as it overcomes the main flaw of most of the marriages which is – the lack of simplicity and the space. It could be a savior to people who are botched up with bad marriages or bad spouses of lending repeated chances but failed. But, at the same time, it could be a devastating factor leading the perfect families to deviated marriages which becomes quite unjustified unless... for an exception of finding true love through an extramarital spree.
In my say, I strongly feel that making outright choice is a must to live through the relationship ordeal without hurting or harming anyone. A conscious choice and standing steadfast by that choice will help in experiencing that long term commitment, love and loyalty which has its own beautiful indescribable pleasure when happens naturally. And who can strike a difference between moral or immoral better than each one of us? In any case, it’s up to each individual to live the life that really counts to them and the moments that reels through the sanity and their firm beliefs.
To conclude, I would like to leave it with a saying that I heard from one of my uncles…
“Nothing is worth it….If you satisfy yourself by hurting others-AND- if you hurt yourself by satisfying others…"
Signing off for now,
Achu
5 comments:
:) Pretty matured topic ! And yet related to childish phenomena ! Extra Marital in a relationship is like Extra Curricular in school. It will take away time from studies and would be fun but may not fetch marks. Its that poison that in right doses, heals pneumonia.
@This Betaal is smarter than "Vikram"
@Achala:Its a very matured and serious one to begin with.
Marriage is so very much glorified in the society without even understanding the compatibility factors, when goes wrong, as you said becomes unjustified.I think commitment will come where there is responsibility to stand steadfast at times to keep it going.
Its an educating and "evolving" blog...
@Bibs- What a correlation i swear:)
@Shridhar- trust me. Betaal here all the time smarter:) and thank you for your comments.
When I first read about the new blog post ...it took me sometime to correlate you with this topic...i can now imagine how evolved you have got yourself as a writer by taking this sensitive matter and yet not biased to any decision.... Keep going strong...
Thanks Ash:)
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